Why I Unfollowed Some of My Favorite Bloggers

wall-with-the-text-i-can-t-breathe-4552368I haven’t said much, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have much to say. With all the crazy things going on in the world, I really try to stay positive, and just stay off of social media as much as I can. It puts me in a bad mood seeing so much negativity.  Seems like every other week a black person is killed for no apparent reason and it’s constant. 

One morning, in particular, a blogger that I loved made one of the most ignorant comments recently. I wanted to believe that people really didn’t feel that way, but it was a blatant disrespect to the black community. 

The Monday before #blackout Tuesday, she made a post talking about how her management company asked them to not post for the day. It enraged me because she was taking it as if it was a JUST a day off, and she made it seem like she was not posting because the management company asked her not to instead of the original reason to hold off posting — it was the day to create space for people to give light on all the injustices in America towards the black community.

Then there was the post to her feed by C.S. Lewis that did me in.  It read, “You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.” The caption then said something along the lines that she hoped for the safety for those who protect us. I’m going to leave that there instead of writing an entire chapter about what I thought of that. 

I was so upset I could barely focus at work. I just couldn’t believe I followed this person for so many years and shopped through her affiliate links, only to find out she doesn’t believe that there is a large black community that I am a part of. That we are dealing with so many life or death situations that could and SHOULD be avoided mostly by those who should protect us. I really wanted to respond or send a DM just expressing my disgust. Then the Lord fixed my heart quickly and I chose to unfollow. 

However, my pettiness started to creep up in me and I wanted to put her on blast all over the internet. Of course, that is not the right thing to do, but I am being honest. I would never do that, it was such a shock when you really see a person for who they are and it’s not good.  

I wanted to share this story to remind everyone there are so many ways you can make a statement. In my case I silenced her ignorance by removing her from my life. In these times, you may also have to remove people from your feed, as well as, your immediate circle. It’s a quiet action, but if many of us take a stand together it will make a loud noise. My statement is just as effective as the peaceful protests all over the world.

Just remember, to really look at the people you are following. We all have a platform no matter how big or small.  Use your platform, it matters. What you say matters. What you feel matters. Make it count because you never know how you can affect someone in a good or bad way. If you are affected by someone in a bad way… there is a little button you can use, so you don’t have to correspond with them ever again. 

Simple as that.  

2 comments

  1. It’s definitely ok to unfollow people who aren’t bringing anything positive or useful to your feed. I think that a lot of people are ignorant to the issue – as a white person, I know that I will never truly understand how it feels, but I want to understand as much as I can and have spent the last couple of weeks educating myself and have vowed to continue learning and practising anti-racism for the rest of my life:)

    • mypurplescarfblog

      Yes that’s is true I am the unfollow queen now lol! I like that you acknowledge that you won’t understand, but you are doing what you can to educate yourself. Thanks for standing up for what’s right! 😘

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